How many times have you wanted something so badly only to miss out? Bidding on a house, going for a new job, loving a dress and your size is sold out, bidding on Trade Me (yes all first world problems!).
It is natural to feel disappointed and the level of disappointment is dependent on the enormity of what you were after. Sometimes, a few tears of disappointment are natural. Sometimes a sense of injustice comes from the disappointment (why didn’t they pick me?). Sometimes, just a shrug and it goes out of your head.
The things that can cause disappointment in children are at a lower level than adults’ disappointments – not being picked for a team, a friend being mean, not becoming a councillor or house captain, not getting what they asked Father Christmas for, not being in a class with their friend, not getting the new teacher they wanted, coming second, not first. However, the feelings engendered by the disappointment are just as strong.
Children can sometimes amplify their sense of disappointment and parents can look at their child going way over the top with their crying or wailing or anger and try to rationalise the disappointment. We need to remember that children don’t have the same maturity as we do, so rationalising the disappointment, or offering platitudes doesn’t work. Don’t try to downplay it, acknowledge their disappointment. In dealing with disappointment loudly, they get it out of their system and do eventually move past it. They haven’t yet learnt to be stoic and deal with disappointment in a socially acceptable way, so this is the best way for them to work through it.
As adults, once we have worked through our feelings, we can put the whole thing in perspective. Children struggle with the notion of putting something in perspective. They are, by nature, egocentric, so they are not capable of seeing it from another perspective. Don’t try to convince them, just let them go through the disappointment and the feeling of being aggrieved. They will get over it.
I have said things like, never mind, if you practise hard, then you will get in the team next year but the child doesn’t care about that, they are in the here and now. I should say, oh that’s a shame, no wonder you are feeling disappointed and leave it at that. But I can’t help myself, I try to offer a solution because I hate seeing children so disappointed that they are upset or angry. Waste of time!
My daughter is currently trying to buy a house but keeps missing out. After I said to her, “oh well, that just means there is something better out there for you.” She said to me through gritted teeth, “if you say that one more time…. It is NOT helpful!” so perhaps it’s not just children but all of us who need to need to wail and cry to get over our disappointment!
I’ve learnt that it is better for me to acknowledge a person’s disappointment rather than try to minimise or rationalise it… but I will probably keep trying to be the person that makes them feel better by trotting out a few platitudes!
Reminder – Curriculum Levels
This year, the achievement expectations on your child’s report are against the levels in the New Zealand Curriculum. The chart below shows how the curriculum levels align with year levels:
You will see that the levels all cross over a number of year levels. For example, look at level 3:
The darkest shaded part sits above year 6, which means that a year 6 child is expected to be achieving at level 3.
Now look at year 5 and you will see that this year group sits below the lighter shaded lower part of level three (or early level 3 as we say) as well as sits below the lighter shaded upper part of level 2. This means that the expected achievement in year 5 is early level 3 with some learning areas being late level 2.
Of course, many of our children are achieving above expectation which means that the year 6 child could be achieving at early level 4 (above expectation) or mid to late level 4 (well above expectation).
Reminder – 2020 Enrolments
If you have a child who will be starting school during 2020, please send in your pre enrolment forms as soon as possible.
Reminder – Carol Service
This is on Tuesday 10 December at 7.00pm at the cathedral in Parnell. As per my explanation in last week’s newsletter, we would appreciate a koha of $5 per person in order to help pay for the hireage of the cathedral.
Reminder – Prizegiving
As we can’t use the auditorium at Baradene this year, we are holding two prizegivings:
9am Friday 13 December – Years 4 – 6 prizegiving combined with Leavers’ assembly
2pm Friday 13 December – Years 1 – 3 prizegiving
Teachers Leaving VAS
I will publish the 2020 staff list on 12 December as we are still finalising appointments. However, I know a lot of you are looking at the teachers in the syndicates where your children will be in 2020 so it is timely that you know who is leaving. At this stage I can tell you that Mike Hogg is leaving VAS and moving to a school very close to where he lives. He wants to be able to spend more time with his young family. Alice Wohlers is heading off overseas – she has planned an amazing trip starting with three months in South America.
We have already recruited some excellent teachers. Tim Botica and Arista Enslin will be joining the staff in 2020. Tessa Fastnedge is returning from maternity leave as senior teacher in the senior syndicate.
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IMPORTANT DATES AND TIMES
School starts: 8.50am
School finishes: 3.00pm
Term Dates for 2019
Term 4: Monday 14 October to Wednesday 18 December 2019
~ Labour Day Mon 28 October ’19
Term Dates for 2020
Term 1: Tuesday 4 February to Thursday 9 April 2020
~ Waitangi Day Thursday 6 February ’20
~ Good Friday 10 April
~ Easter Monday 13 April
~ Easter Tuesday 14 April
~ ANZAC Day Monday 27 April
Term 2: Tuesday 28 April to Friday 3 July 2020
~ Queen’s Birthday Monday 1 June ’20
Term 3: Monday 20 July to Friday 25 Sept 2020
Term 4: Monday 12 October to Wednesday 16 December 2020
~ Labour Day Monday 26 October ’20
Tuesdays and Thursdays: 8.30-8.45am
– half way up dragon drive in the old dental clinic
OPEN FRIDAYS only: 8.15-8.45am
Orders and payments for uniform can be made online on our website ~ Click here
1. ‘Daily Lunch and Catering’ ordered through ezlunch: Mondays, Tuesdays and Thursdays – ONLINE ORDERS ONLY
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2. Subway: ordered through ezLUNCH: – ONLINE ORDERS ONLY
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School Dental Service
8b Ngaio St Orakei Ph 520 0603.
The dental team will be posting letters to all new entrants to our school as required.
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NIT NIGHT TONIGHT!!
PLEASE, PLEASE CHECK FOR NITS – a number of classes have reported nits and if your infected child is not treated then many others will be!
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- Room 2: Max Hill
- Room 2: Jonathan Hu
- Room 4: Lawrence Song
- Room 4: Joshua Su
- Room 5: Max McCarthy
- Room 5: Hiroki Hui
- Room 5: Cooper O’Shannessey
- Room 6: Daniel You
- Room 7: Alan Wang
- Room 7: Daniel Taghipouri-Vahid
- Room 8: Susan Althoft
- Room 14: Zelda Boyer
- Room 14: Hansing Li
- Room 17: Harry Stewart
- Room 17: Amilija Perich
- Room 17: Harper Xiao
- Room 18: Nathaniel Liang
- Room 19: Stepan Kornyshev
- Room 19: Austin Chyi
- Room 20: Blake Field
- Room 20: Peter Kim
- Room 21: Isabella Gjorgjevik
- Room 21: Neave Harris
- Room 22: Olivia Li
- Room 22: Zoe Williams
- Room 22: Alaina He
- Room 22: Lachlan Khoo
- Room 22: Grace Scott
- Room 23: Kiaan Tamaskar
- Room 23: Lucas Hotham
- Room 23: Lin Hui Zhang
- Room 23: Juha Wang
- Room 23: Helena Yu
- Room 24: James King
- Room 24: Arthur Ferreira
- Room 24: George Xu
- Room 24: Grace Chai
- Room 24: Allen Wu
- Room 24: Roy Ma
- Room 24: Rita Gu
- Room 24: Conor Cody
- Room 24: Olivia Mann
- Room 24: Harry Wang
- Room 21: Isabella Gjorgjevik
Shine exam results
TRINITY SPEECH & DRAMA
Liam Zhao G2 – Distinction
Eva Gardner IN – Distinction
Olivia Tan IN – Distinction
Sebastian Fong IN – Distinction
Crystal Tan IN – Distinction
Grace Sarah-Anne McLachlan IN – Merit
Claudia Skye Evison IN – Merit
Charlotte Dalziel IN – Distinction
Freddie McGregor – Macdonald IN – Distinction
Mila Walsh Grade 3 Honours
Congratulations Shine students in your performing arts exams. Fantastic results!
Class parents for 2020
We are looking for class parents for next year. This is a great way to get to know your child’s teacher and other parents in the class. If you are wanting to be involved this role can be done whether you are working or at home. It can fit around you.
Once you find out your children(s) classes for next year, please email Kristin at [email protected] with the name(s) of your child(ren), what year they will be in next year, and your contact number. Thanks so much.
Room 15 bake sale
Marketing volunteer needed
The Uniform Shop will be open the following extra hours:
13 December: 11.30am – 1.00pm
3 February: 12.00pm – 3.00pm
Please remind your children to return all their Library books this week for stocktaking.
School buses to Victoria Avenue School
We have been advised by AT that all of their school buses are open to students from any school, and they run a number of different routes to the northern part of Victoria Avenue. They have published an updated list of school services here: https://at.govt.nz/bus-train-ferry/timetables/school-timetables/victoria-avenue-school/