I was at the APPA breakfast yesterday and the speaker had us all discussing one of her points at a round table. We were then asked if anyone wanted to share what the people at their table thought about her point. Fine, no problem there. It was all going well. Then a male principal signalled that he wanted to share.
This principal, started off sharing his colleagues’ viewpoints by saying, ”The girls at my table….”
Now this may not annoy other women but I find it a patronising, subtle put down of women. None of the women in that room were ‘girls’. There was a mix of very experienced and inexperienced female principals, all of whom are intelligent and articulate. We have all matured past girlhood.
Unfortunately, there is still a lot of this patronising, put down attitude, not only to women but also girls. Before I lose my male readers, there is also a level of patronising dialogue and put downs around boys and men.
Like the comment from the male salesperson when I was looking for a new (high performance) car. He talked performance to my husband then turned to me and asked me what colour I would like.
Like one of my husband’s work colleagues who told him he was such a clever man because he knows how to do the washing.
Like one of our girls being told that she could have the glitter.
Like one of our boys being told that he was brave to wear the white polo.
Every time one of our children is on the receiving end of a put down or patronising comment, it dents their self esteem. They are not mature enough to be annoyed and just think that the person who said it is an idiot. They take the subtle criticism and store it away. The more put downs and patronising comments made to them, the more they store away. Their self belief gets chipped away. Without self belief, their resilience, their confidence is eroded. This is not what we want for our children.
Let us start to challenge patronising comments and put downs made to our children, either by adults or other children. Let’s be their advocates so they see that such comments are not acceptable. Anxiety and depression in children is on the rise so any small thing we can do to stop comments from chipping away at their self belief can only be a good thing.
Student Led Conferences – School Will Close at 2pm Wednesday 20 November
The children are preparing to share their progress and learning with you, so please mark it in your diary. We put students at the centre of their learning (called student agency) and having them share with you is an important part of their learning.
Wednesday 20 November – school closes at 2pm, conferences from 2.20pm – 6.00pm
Thursday 21 November – conferences from 3.20pm – 5pm
Booking details will be emailed out shortly.
If you wish us to take any information into consideration as we form classes, please email me. It may be a request to separate your child from another child. Please note that we do not accept any requests for specific teachers. Please email your thoughts by 22 November, unfortunately requests sent in after this date will not be actioned. It is also almost impossible to make any changes once all families have been notified about the class their child will be in for 2020, so please email me early.
We have had experts in who have fertilised and aerated the field and sown grass seed into the bare patches. The field has been closed, but will open next week. There will be lots of happy children!
Unfortunately, we were not able to get a date for our athletics at Mt Smart this year so all the athletics will be held at school, with some events at St Kents.
Last year we had a date but we were bumped for the Taylor Swift concert! We have been able to secure a date for 2020 so will look forward to returning there, hopefully no big name celebrities to bump us again. The athletics days are as follows:
Years 5, 6 – 14 November from 11am
Years 3, 4 – 6 December from 12.30pm
Years 1, 2 – 29 November