On Line Auction for Everyone
Have you heard about the on line auction which is available for anyone to place a bid, whether you are coming to the Quiz night or not? Have a look at the auction items. The PTS would love people to get behind it as there are great items up for grabs, at bargain prices – like access to the staff car park!!!! To view click here!
The items are so great I have already put my bid on two items! Remember the auction is available to everyone in the school.
How many times do we hear ourselves saying to our children….” What do you say?” This means you are waiting for a please or thank you from your child. When children come to the office with a request or I have given them the item I sometimes have to ask them ‘what is the magic word?’ They always know it, they just needed prompting. The great news is that VAS children are generally very well mannered.
What does ‘well mannered’ really mean? Saying please and thank you, hello and goodbye and that’s it? We all have different expectations about manners, what we will and won’t accept from our children, our partner, our families. Why do we expect others to have good manners?
When you delve right into this, what is the person who is demonstrating good manners actually doing? He or she are showing consideration for what you have just done for them (thank you), or being polite in their request of your time to undertake an action for you (please). They are showing respect. They want you to know that they appreciate what you have done.
What about other aspects of being well mannered? We teach our children right from the outset, that we have high expectations for them being well mannered at assembly. Ensuring they don’t talk whilst the performance is happening, ensuring that they clap at the end of the performance, are important parts to having a well-mannered child. It is about showing appreciation and consideration. It doesn’t matter whether they have liked the performance, it is about acknowledging the effort, practice and performance. Important learning for the future.
What about other manners? If I am talking to someone and their phone goes, does it show good manners if the person stops talking to me and answers their phone? The message I get is that I am not as important to that person as the person on the phone obviously is. How about the person who interrupts me mid-sentence and proceeds to tell me their story? Did they display good manners? The message I get is that they think their story is more interesting than mine. Or the child who interrupts me as I am talking to the birthday child as I deliver their card? The message I get is that the interrupter has not yet learnt to think about others.
It is great that parents insist on the please and thank you, but are you modelling good manners yourself? What about demonstrating good manners when we are dealing with the dairy owner, or the car mechanic, or the shop assistant? Do your children see us being polite and well-mannered or do they see you being dismissive?
What about other manners? Perhaps they seem old fashioned to some of you. Manners like holding the door open for someone else, taking your hat off when inside, waiting your turn in a queue, closing your mouth when you eat, not running around the supermarket, saying excuse me, looking at the person who is speaking to you.
We all need to remember that our actions definitely speak louder than words when it comes to behaviours we want from our children. The good news though, is that VAS children are pretty good with the ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, now let’s extend that to being well mannered through their actions.