Bullying. Nobody likes it, but no matter what we do, there will always be someone who picks on another person. It happens at work, it happens at school and it happens within families. Do we accept it? Never! Do we always know it is happening? Sometimes we do, sometimes we don’t.
We know who the company bully is (we don’t have any at VAS thank goodness!) but usually that person is in a position of power so the behaviour is difficult to stop because people fear losing their job. In a family, there may be one child who is always tormenting their sibling. When the bullied child complains to the parents, they don’t usually think of it as bullying, just ‘kids being kids’ and tell the bully to stop, but don’t address the actual bullying. Unfortunately most bullying we don’t know about is because the bullies never do it when adults / bosses / parents are around. This is how it is at school.
So, what is the definition of bullying? It is when someone keeps on doing or saying things to have power over another person. This is when the torment is ongoing and relentless and creates ongoing fear and anxiety.
Tomorrow is Pink Shirt day. The following has been taken from the www.pinkshirtday.org.nz website. I have copied it because it neatly explains bullying. Pink Shirt Day aims to create schools, workplaces and communities where all people feel safe, valued and respected.
We all think we know bullying when we see it, but bullying can also be something we don’t see. Often, people who experience it feel invisible. Calling someone names, saying or writing nasty things about them, leaving them out of activities, not talking to them, threatening them, making them feel uncomfortable or scared, taking or damaging their things, hitting or kicking them or making them do things they don’t want to do are all forms of bullying.
Generally bullying has the following features:
- It is repeated – this may be single acts with different targets or many acts with the same target.
- It involves a power imbalance – this means that there is an unequal relationship between the target and the bully, this could be because of physical size, age, gender or social status. By not stopping bullying we increase this power imbalance.
- It is harmful.
Generally, we think that bullying is deliberate. It is difficult for those being bullied (targets) to defend themselves and it can often be difficult for those doing the bullying (initiators) to learn new social behaviours.
There are four main types of bullying:
- Physical – hitting and punching.
- Verbal – teasing, taunting, unwanted threatening, homophobic or racist remarks and name-calling.
- Social – ignoring or excluding, spreading rumours or gossiping, withholding friendship.
- Cyber – repeated threats, unkind remarks or criticisms sent electronically.
There is a great book ‘The Bully, the Bullied and the Bystander’ by Barbara Coloroso which really delves into how to deal with bullies. In her book she says that a powerful subgroup of bullying is the ‘bystanders’. The people who watch on and it is how they respond to both the bully and the target have a tremendous influence on how emboldened the bully becomes / how weak the target gets. (Page 46).
Pink Shirt day is not only for the targets or victims of bullying but is about bystanders saying ‘No, we do not accept this’. Speak up, stand together, stop bullying.
After Hours use of Access to the School
Dear Parents who pick up from after hours activities.
With health and safety in mind we are becoming increasingly concerned at the behaviour of parents who pick their children up from after school care and after school activities.
Thank you – we need to keep our children safe!
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Term Dates for 2016
Term 2: Monday 2 May to Friday 8 July ’16
Queen’s Birthday Monday 6 June ’16
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Room 5: Estella Tree
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|Room 14: Nina Valenzuela|
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Room 18: Grace Thomson
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Room 20: Natalie Tidey
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TERM 2 PROGRAMMES AT AUCKLAND NETBALL
NETBALL COACHING CLINICS
Afterschool Netball Programme | Ages 5-13 years | Monday, Tuesday, Saturday or Sunday
Build your child’s netball skills with our Coaching Clinics, a specialised 8-week programme delivered by our expert coaches to take your child’s netball to the next level.
Where: Auckland Netball Centre, St Johns and Windmill Road, Mt Eden
ALL-SORTS OF SPORTS PRESCHOOL
Fundamental Skills Programme | Boys & Girls | Ages 2-4 years | Monday, Friday and Sunday mornings
All Sorts of Sports is a pre-school multi-sport programme designed to introduce your child to the fundamental skills needed to participate in a wide range of sports.This programme incorporates the essential gross motor skills that will enhance your child’s growth.
FREE Taster Days on Sunday 8, Monday 9 and Friday 13 May.
Where: Auckland Netball Centre, St Johns
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