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Newsletter: Term 1 Week 3 – 21 February 2019

Dear Parents,

How many people do you have who you can call ‘a close friend’? How many people do you count as ‘friends’? How many people do you know who you would probably call ‘acquaintances’?

No two of us would have the same answer to these questions. How many close friends, how many friends you have depends a lot on your personality. There are some people who have a wide circle of close friends, friends they can call on for support or a laugh, close friends who know how you tick. There are others who have one or two close friends. Children are no different. Some have just one very close friend and others just can’t survive without being surrounded by lots of friends. Parents with lots of friends can sometimes feel that their child, who prefers just one close friend, is somehow missing out and they encourage them to develop lots of friendships, usually with not a lot of success. One friend or many friends; we are all different.

It really isn’t about how many close friends you have, it is about how you became close friends in the first place. It is about how you unconsciously went about establishing the boundaries of the friendship and how, during the establishment of the friendship, you worked through the ways you might deal with conflict between you. You would have also gained understanding of your close friend’s needs, hot buttons, strengths and weaknesses just as your friend would have worked you out.

Forming friendships is complex and can be a minefield if you are a child. Children do not have the developmental capacity to make the sorts of judgements about potential friends that adults have. Their friendships come and go. There is conflict one day and BFFs the next day. Two close friends will gang up on the third close friend and exclude them. The next day, the dynamics change and the one excluded yesterday has made it up with one of the two that excluded them the day before, and they then exclude the third. Complex!

Complex, yes but an absolutely vital part of their childhood. It is through the complexity of making and losing friends, dealing with conflict and disappointment, that a child develops strategies to form close friendships as an adult. This can be where parents struggle. Obviously we all want life to be smooth for our children all the time and when there is conflict, we want to step in and solve it for them. As parents, working through the minefield that is friendships with our child, rather than solving their issues ourselves, is such powerful modelling as they move into teenage years and adulthood.

Perhaps discuss strategies, ask your child for their thoughts about how to solve the issue. If a child is upset over a lost friendship or their closest friend being in another class, ask them about it and get them to verbalise or come up with a plan. Perhaps guiding them rather than telling them might help with developing their ability to deal with things in life that don’t always go right.

I’m no expert, I can only talk about strategies teachers, who play a large part in helping children learn about friendships, use to help children learn how to be a good friend and how to resolve issues.

Here is the link to the NZ Herald article published in December 2018, that you might find interesting.
How to Help Your Child Make Friends at School

Nothing distresses me more than a parent telling me at the end of a year that their child had trouble with being bullied, but neither the child nor the parent told the teacher, the senior teacher, the associate principals nor me. We can only make a difference if we know about bullying. Remember that bullies NEVER bully in front of adults, so we need to be told by the child or the parent. We take incidents of bullying very seriously and deal with it immediately we find out. Please tell your child’s teacher, me or a senior manager if your child tells you they have a problem. If you don’t tell us, the bully gets away with it and it reinforces the bully’s feeling of power.

Kind Regards
Janice Adamson

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FOR TERM 1 2019
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School Times
School starts:      8.50am
Interval:             10.30-10.50am
Lunch:               12.30-1.25pm
School finishes:   3.00pm

Term Dates for 2019

Term 1: Monday 4 February to Friday 12 April 2019
~ Waitangi Day Wednesday 6 February ’19
~ Good Friday 19 April
~ Easter Monday 22 April
~ Easter Tuesday 23 April
Term 2: Monday 29 April to Friday 5 July 2019
~ Queen’s Birthday Monday 3 June ’19
Term 3: Monday 22 July to Friday 27 Sept 2019
Term 4: Monday 14 October to Wednesday 18 December 2019
~ Labour Day Mon 28 October ’19

Stationery Sales
Tuesdays and Thursdays: 8.30-8.45am

Uniform Shop
– half way up dragon drive in the old dental clinic

OPEN FRIDAYS only: 8.15-8.45am
Orders and payments for uniform can be made online on our website ~ Click here

Lunch Orders
1. ‘Daily Lunch and Catering’ ordered through ezlunch: Mondays, Tuesdays and Thursdays – ONLINE ORDERS ONLY
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Join ezlunch today  and Place an order  Sushi is available through Daily Lunch and Catering
2. Subway: ordered through ezLUNCH: – ONLINE ORDERS ONLY
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Join ezlunch today  and Place an order

School Dental Service
8b Ngaio St Orakei Ph 520 0603.

The dental team will be posting letters to all new entrants to our school as required.

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PLEASE, PLEASE CHECK FOR NITS – a number of classes have reported nits and if your infected child is not treated then many others will be!
Here is a link from NZ Health for info and treatment.

VAS School App

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Ice-blocks will be back on sale for Term 1 on Friday afternoons under the tree beside the field at 3pm – so don’t forget to bring your $2!

Seesaw Update

This week you should receive a letter from your child’s teacher explaining how to connect to Seesaw and access your child’s posts. As you view their posts please keep in mind that journal entries are intended to be authentic examples of your child’s learning so please focus on the content rather than the errors. Making comments is a powerful way to acknowledge success and further extend understanding and the best comments are those which help us to learn.

Below are some suggestions to ensure constructive comments…
Open with a compliment. Be positive, respectful and polite.
Example: “This was interesting to me because…”
Example: “I really liked _____ about your post. Have you thought of_____?”
Be specific and detailed.
Example: “I think you did a great job because…”

Add new, factual information if you can and/or learn something new.
Example: “I learned _______ from reading your post. Did you also know that_____.”
Example: “I am curious about_____. Can you tell me more about it_____?”

If you have any problems please do not hesitate to let us know.

You can find more information about Seesaw for parents at

Epipen School Offer from one of our Parents
$135 including delivery to school – $5 donated to school for each delivery!

As a mum and a pharmacist I understand that epipens can be expensive. I can personally deliver your epipen (which is temperature sensitive) to the school office. This ensures the medication is not exposed to temperature fluctuations within the courier van and saves you time and hassle. We provide the latest expiry dating and we can tell you the current one when contacting us. Deliveries will be done on a weekly basis during school term. Discount available for 2 or more pens. For more information, please contact [email protected]

Year 5 and 6 Swimming Sports Day
Thursday March 7 2019
Diocesan Aquatic Centre

We require all entries completed this week. We will enter all students in the 25m Freestyle (unless advised otherwise by parents) and additional entries may be added through this link:
The link above also requests parent help with running the event. Please indicate if you are available and we will contact you with information on your role for the day. If you have any queries [email protected]