The school year is now well underway. Classroom teachers are getting to know their children and are establishing the class culture. Children are getting to know new people and are starting to make new friends. They are also getting to know their teacher.
Week 3 of the year is a time when children, who have been almost perfect up until now, start to test their new teacher’s boundaries. We teachers know this and expect it to happen. This means that teachers are needing to be professionally and quietly assertive with their expectations.
Week 3 is also a time when some children are going through a small grieving process for their last class and their last teacher. They had finished the year with a close relationship with their teacher. They were part of a strong class culture and they knew their previous teacher’s expectations. They have been thrown into a new situation with new classmates and a new teacher and are having to make sense of it and figure out their place in this new environment.
Some children are going through a bit of a phase where they are reluctant to come to school in the morning. Some children are telling parents they don’t have any friends. As parents, we always want our children to be happy to come to school and have friends, so having a moping child can be a little upsetting.
Don’t despair! This is all completely normal. Cast your mind back to the last time you started a new job. Be honest, a couple of weeks into the new job you went through a period of self-doubt. Oh, did I make the right decision? I should have stayed where I was. I miss my old workmates and the easy camaraderie we had. Then two months later, you are loving your new job, the new challenge and stimulation and you find yourself saying that it was the best decision ever!
Your child will work through this and in a week or so they will be back to their happy selves and will have made new friends. However, if you are worried at all, please have a chat to your child’s teacher, or come and have a chat with Jane Cameron, Anne Bridgman or me, we are always happy to help.