I have been glued to the Commonwealth Games coverage each evening since the games started. All of a sudden I have become an armchair critic and judge. ‘Oooh, that wasn’t a good dive, he didn’t nail his entry into the pool’ sort of comment. Really, what do I know about diving? Nothing, but when I’m watching I feel like I do. I’m like that when watching high level sport. I criticise team selections, I criticise ref decisions. I know I shouldn’t but I do. We can all criticise from the sideline.
During the coverage we have seen the triumphs and the disappointment. Disappointments are part and parcel of sport. Remember when Julian Savea was in devastating form for the All Blacks? Then he went into a form slump and was dropped. He was incredibly disappointed. Remember when Anna Scarlett was a fantastic goal keep for the Silver Ferns? She too went into a form slump and was dropped from the team and like Julian Savea, was disappointed.
There is never a guarantee that you are going to be picked for a team. Even if you were in the All Blacks last year, you are not guaranteed to be in the AlI Blacks this year. There are always a whole lot of players who are trying just as hard as you, some experienced and some young guns who are bolting through the ranks. There will always be disappointed players. In rugby there are 15 players on the field, 6 reserves and then all those children who tried out for the team and didn’t get selected. Same in netball, cricket, soccer. There are always children who will be disappointed.
Our role as parents and adults is to model how to accept disappointment as being part of life but more importantly, what we should do when we are disappointed. We can’t take away the disappointment. What we can do is acknowledge disappointment not try to diminish it. We can sit down with our child and talk about what they could do to get better at their chosen sport so that they can trial again next year and be bigger and better than they were this year. Anna Scarlett reinvented herself as a high level beach volleyball player who represented New Zealand. She then trialled for the Silver Ferns a few years later and was selected. She is a perfect example of how to deal with disappointment and use it as motivation. We can help our children do just that.
So if your child tries but doesn’t get into a team, help them deal with the disappointment and model for them how to use it as motivation to be even better. This is going to help them far more as they move through the disappointments of life.
End of Term
It has been a fantastic term with so much happening. Thanks to all of you who have helped around the school in so many ways. One of the strengths of our great community is how they support initiatives and help teachers. Trust me, we really appreciate it.
Thanks to our lovely Mums in Prayer who put on a beautiful morning tea for the staff. We really appreciate your kindness in acknowledging the work we do.
Parent Teacher Interviews
Great to see so many of you coming along for your interview with your child’s teacher. Thanks to those of you who took advantage of the opportunity to send in some thoughts prior to the interviews. The teachers said they have been really helpful. We are looking forward to seeing the rest of our parents this afternoon.