Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory. –Dr Suess
I came across this quote from Dr Suess this morning and it made me smile.
Yesterday I was speaking with a year 2 boy (6 years old) and as part of the conversation he said that he remembered the occasion from when he was young. Hiding my smile, I asked him how old he was when it happened and he said, ‘five and a half’. You have to love his definition of ‘young’!
The moments that become memories are surprising. It is not the trip to Disneyland or the new shoes, it seems to me that the moments that become memories are usually the little details rather than the big moment. I thought I would check my theory on a couple of year 5 boys.
I asked them, “What is your memory from when you were in the juniors?”
The first boy said, “I remember when my mum brought me to school and I was all dressed up but it was the wrong day so she took me home for the day.” The second boy said, “I remember when I came third in the year 1 sprint race.”
As I suspected, the memories were of small snapshots of their time in the juniors, events that stayed in their memories. Our memories always bring back the emotion we felt at the time, rather than a recount of the event. We can have fond memories, bad memories, memories about the fun we had, or how embarrassed we were or the sadness we felt. We have no deliberate ability to decide what will become a memory and what won’t. What memories we have seem to be random. Have you ever had a conversation with your brother or sister who insist you remember the time when something happened when you were children and you really have no recollection of it? They say to you that they can’t believe that you don’t remember it. It is their memory but not yours.
I think that we all can contribute to try to ensure that our children take away the good things from their school days which will become their memories. Sadly though, sometimes it is the one negative thing that becomes their overriding memory of school, despite there being many great things. Perhaps if we encourage our children to tell us what they liked about school today, what was the best thing that happened we might be a little instrumental in getting that to become their memory. Perhaps by letting our children tell us about the negative thing and we help them work through the feeling or help them sort it out, it may not become a memory. Perhaps what becomes the memory instead is that you helped them out when something negative was happening to them.
Hopefully though, a snapshot of their time at Disneyland or remembering when they got the new shoes they had badly wanted will be stored away in our children’s memory!
We are very pleased to have Aniel Smith join our staff as the new sport and PE teacher. Aniel was previously at St Cuthberts and has made a great start at VAS.
Another welcome, this time to a lovely baby girl for Rachael Wilcock. Both mother and baby are doing well.